Name: Joaquin S.
Various random musings and findings. You may call me a dilettante, but I like to think of myself as having limitless potential in many areas.
I don’t care what other dudes think, the “friend zone” is awesome.
This “friend zone” talk perpetuates the notion that the only incentive for men to interact with women is the possibility for a romantic relationship or sex. Same thing with the whole “don’t be a nice guy” sentiment. Seriously, what’s wrong with being kind or helpful to a lady just to be a good friend, or just a decent human being, without any conditions? While I’m at it, what’s wrong with just being single and cultivating good friendships? Does your value as a person diminish if you don’t get married or have a long-term relationship by a certain age, if ever? If only people could have license to focus on their personal goals and wellness and be happy, irrespective of socially constructed expectations.
I wish we could go back to the days of the working-class intellectual. When you could work in a factory or the shipyards and still be a writer or scholar. I guess it’s still possible to do that (though the lack of actual factories or shipyards in the US is kind of a problem), but it seems like everything now is internship this, two years experience that, go to grad school after some-odd years, when I just wanna say ‘efff that’ to the whole damn process. Maybe it’s just me being ambivalent or unsure about my personal goals, but right now I’m just not that comfortable with the whole proscribed, singular course of career and life. Or maybe I’m just afraid to start something and see what happens.